I took your debate tactic and used it, but at least I had the decency to acknowledge that my tone was rude (although I don't feel that a rude tone is enough to validate the logical argument I was, in fact, making) whereas you seem to want to place all the blame on me, while not questioning whether or not you had some responsibility in creating a hostile argument rather than a debate.

Your tone was rude and condescending and I reacted to it strongly. I acknowledge that my response was not the most mature or correct one. I am sorry, and I truly do apologize for that response. But I stand by the points that I made, and I stand by my anger -- though not the expression of it -- as a natural one to the way that you worded your response to her.